People-Pleasing and Mental Health: Are You Really Pleasing Anyone?

Exhausted person sitting with head in hands, overwhelmed by people-pleasing and emotional burnout.

People-pleasing is a common but often misunderstood behavior. It’s frequently linked to anxiety, low self-esteem, and early life experiences. In Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, people-pleasing is viewed as a protective part—a part that works tirelessly to ensure safety, connection, and acceptance. This part often emerges to help us navigate relationships where approval felt tied […]